Has some ever said they were coming to get you and they didn’t show?
I can remember, sitting on the couch looking out the window waiting for my dad to show up.
30 minutes later I would give up trying to see if the next car was his. 
The enemy will use any situation to bring destruction to our hearts.
At that young age, I wasn’t able to control my thoughts and tell them where to go like I can now.
I would use the situation as confirmation that “If I was only GOOD ENOUGH, he would come. He always showed up for the BIG events in my life.”
I learned quickly that food was always there. It was just an open cabinet away. 
If you have ever used food as a counterfeit comfort to your hurting heart here is tangible action to implement. 
Did you know God is a title and He has a name? It's YAHWAY!!!
I breath in and breathe out his name > YAHWAY!
Did you know the sound of your breath when breathing in through your nose sounds like YAH?
Now breath out of your mouth: It sounds like WAY.
Friend, when you feel like the enemy is trying to remind you of those hurtful lies from the past…
JUST BREATHE
In through your nose: YAH
Out of your mouth: WAY
He is our ever-present help in times of trouble!
Our first breath and our last breath PRAISE HIS NAME!!!
Have you ever tried to breathe the name of God to help you return back to calm?
Friend, I'm here with a smile on my face as I have received so much freedom even with the simple act of breathing!
You got this girl! Jesus is working on your behalf. I'm rooting for you too!
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Did you know that you are inundated with more than 90,000 messages a day! The majority of them are telling us how we should do more, so we can be better. I’m here to stand up for the truth to say really loud so the girls in the back can hear me too “If you don’t have peace in your body right now, it’s not going to come when you fit into those skinny jeans 3 sizes smaller”.
Let me say that again, “If you don’t have peace in your body right now, it’s not going to come when you fit into those skinny jeans 3 sizes smaller."
Here is what I know. When I weighed 250 pounds and 150 pounds my peace did not change. Yes, I was in a smaller size jeans. Yes, I was more confident, BUT my response to the circumstances around me were the same! My heart still raced, my shoulders would get tense, and the pit in my stomach was just as painful.
Go right ahead and ask a woman you consider to be “skinny” what she hates about her body. She will start to rattle off her list of dislikes faster than you can blink your eyes. I know if you reached your ideal body size you think you would never have anything negative to say about your size, but that’s not the truth.
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Have you ever had an experience where you know time stood still and it will forever be remembered as a time your life changed? This past weekend was that experience for me.
I started the event virtually at home in my living room. There was a package that was delivered weeks prior and it was finally time to open it. The first item we opened was a confetti cannon, only I didn’t know it was a confetti cannon!
There was confetti everywhere! It was glorious. I know, you are probably thinking what in the world girl. Confetti launched all over the living room is not a glorious occasion. I get it. I really do, but I was the girl that could never keep her room clean. Being told your room is a pigsty and messy, and why can’t you keep it clean just does a number on a little girl’s tender heart.
I love organization and I can plan an event like there is no tomorrow, but the daily work on keeping everything in a spot is just not my gifting. I have to seriously work at it. If you are blessed with the gift of order on the daily, I applaud you.
The words that were spoken over the confetti everywhere will forever be stamped on my heart! The instructor was addiment that we as participants not jump to clean up “ the mess”. Then these words followed….
“It’s a Holy Mess”
It was like a light bulb switched in my heart, my life is not a mess that needs cleaned up. It’s a Holy Mess. It’s set apart for His love to encounter.
My friend, how many times have you looked at your home and all that is in disarray and start cursing it? “ Ugh, can’t we just keep this house clean? Why is no one cleaning it? When will we ever have it nice?” Those words have been said one too many times to my husband and children. I was the cannon with my words, only it wasn’t confetti that was launched into our home. It was harsh words, blaming them, with a harsh tone. Lord forgive me!
God is whispering to my heart, and maybe now to yours. The mess is holy! It’s our lives He died for, not something we must rush to make look picture perfect on the outside!
1st Thessalonians 5:18 tells us to “Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.”
Now when I see a mess in our home, I will be reminded that it’s Holy, as I for the 587th time clean it up! I invite you to make this a new habit for you too!
Please tell me, I’m not alone in this journey. Have you ever said hard words over your home and the mess that feels like it is over taking you? What are you calling a mess that the Lord is calling HOLY?
I was sinking. Sinking in the weight of the to do list, sinking in the weight of deadlines and sinking in the weight of not spending my time on the things my heart deeply desired. The weight was heavy. It felt like a two tone armour that I wasn’t meant to bare. The armour strapped me down and didn’t allow my arms to move. Taking a step forward was stripping the life out of me.
I recognized that I have been in this space before. I even promised myself I would never do this again. I would never have so many commitments and projects where I felt like life was out of control. In the past, when those feelings of “I just can’t get it all done” I would run to food for a temporary retreat to feel good in my body.
Yet here I was again, saying yes to really good things which meant I was saying no to my family time and my time to be still and know. This time there was a picture of the growth that I have achieved. I didn’t turn to food. I didn’t find myself in the drive thru or binging on the kid’s snacks.
I spent time feeling the feelings of inadequacy as I wasn’t going to get it all done by the due dates. I spent time being in my body rather than numbing out. I spent time telling a few close friends where I am out and how I am getting out. The destination is to return to peace and the boundaries I had with my time for my high priorities.
When I say yes to too many things at once it’s usually from a place of fear of missing out. My old pal FOMO comes right back to rub my back. It turns into wanting to please people. Wanting to show “my stack” as if it represents my worth. My friend, if you too have said yes to too many commitments like I have, I want you to know that you do not have to earn love. Perfect love casts out all fear. So I’m sitting today in His perfect love for me.
“Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love.”
1 John 4:18
Where are you experiencing fear? What are you afraid your punishment is going to be? It's time to be still and be loved so you can experience his perfect love for you!
I feel like I could puke. My entire body is telling me to run in the opposite direction. Just wave that little white flag of surrender and say peace out. Have you ever tried something new before and felt like running away was a reality you were considering?
Starting something new can have so many emotions that can bubble up. We can be excited for the newness of what is in front of us, but when the work begins, we want to tuck our tail and back away. As I am working through the revelation wellness instructor training, I’m feel all kinds of emotions. It’s almost like being on an emotional rollercoaster. One moment, I am strong and bold and the next turn I feel like I’m free falling only not strapped in to anything to catch me.
What I’m learning in this process is to become curious about my feelings and aware of what thoughts are flowing in my head. Am I telling myself “this is too hard?” “I can’t figure this out?” “Who do I think I am?” One thing I’m learning is that my feelings need a friend but my thoughts need taken to court. 2nd Corinthians 10:5 tells us to “bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ”
The thought of “this is too hard” comes from of feeling of unbelief that I can do this and be safe to put myself out there when I don’t feel like I know what I’m doing. The thought needs to be ran through the word of God. When something seems to hard for my kids I am quick to recite Philippians 4:12 “ I can do all things through Christ who give me strength.” For the longest time, I believed that my feelings needed to be taken to court too, but really my feelings need a hug.
The feeling of fear of judgement, shame if I don’t get it right, sadness if it’s not worthy enough… they all need a hug. They need loved into a safe place. This happens in the secret place. For me that’s at 5am in the morning with my Bible, journal, and listening to Jesus. Our feelings are a window into our beliefs. What we believe becomes our reality. Our beliefs are formed from our thoughts about past experiences we have had. That is why our thoughts are so powerful and need corrected when out of order. Our thoughts eventually become our beliefs and we live out our actions based on our beliefs.
When trying this new thing of becoming a fitness teacher, gospel preacher I am giving myself the gift of time and the gift of grace. Who said I had to have it right the first time? Who said trying something new and not getting it right wasn’t praise worthy progress? Who said learning a new skill meant I better not mess up?
Get curious with your feelings my friend! They are a window into your heart of what you are believing about yourself. They can be traced back to a thought we had that did not line up with the Word of God. What if you could learn to try something new without being triggered by past expectations that you or someone else placed on you?
Drop in the discussion chat below what new thing have you been wanting to try but you are holding back because it all feels overwhelming? Give yourself the gift of time and grace too! It’s been placed on your heart for a reason.
